Pre-Marriage Counselling Services | Beneficial or Not
When two people get together and are preparing to get married, the idea of going to marriage counselling maybe totally alien to them, after all, isn’t couples counselling for people in trouble?
As an Imago Relationship Therapist, I’d suggest every couple have a good dose of marriage counselling before tying the knot, or at least attend an Imago “Getting The Love You Want” couples workshop.
Why Go To Marriage Counselling Before Getting Married?
Going to marriage counselling or a couples workshop before getting married is going to future proof your relationship. It will give you an opportunity to understand how relationships work and teach you the Imago Dialogue process – a way of talking to each other that is safe and connecting.
When difficult times come along (and I promise you they will as they do in all relationships) you have all the tools you need to negotiate the rocky waters and come out the other side closer and more connected.
Couples counselling is not just about dealing with difficulties in the relationship. An Imago Relationship Therapist will teach you how to celebrate the joy of being in a relationship, how to bring appreciations and fun into your marriage and explain why creating a zero negative environment is so important for a couple who are going to spend the rest of their lives together.
The Power Struggle
In the Power Struggle phase of the relationship you and your partner are going to be pushing against each other. This is normal and healthy. It’s growth trying to happen.
If you’ve had couples counselling or been to a “Getting The Love You Want” couples workshop you won’t’ be surprised that you’re getting stuck and you’ll be able to use dialogue to talk it through with your partner safely.
This might save you from unnecessary pain in the relationship and move you towards growth and connection – sounds better doesn’t it?
The Relationship Vision
Spending an enormous amount of time and money planning your wedding? The average cost of a wedding in the UK in 2020 was £16 000. Add to that all the time invested to get things just right.
How about after the event? Have you planned what you want the relationship to look like after the guests have gone home and the paper’s are all signed?
Most couples spend no time at all discussing what they want their relationship to look like. They presume that their partner sees things just as they do (this is called symbiosis, and once more is perfectly normal).
If you have pre-marriage counselling with an Imago therapist or attend a couples workshop you can sit down with your partner and work out together what you want the relationship to look like.
How will you mange money together? What about holidays? Sex? Children?
Working with an Imago therapist, you and your partner can be really clear about the direction you want your relationship to take, avoiding disagreements and upset further along the road.
Pre-Marriage Counselling, The Best Wedding Gift You Could Ever Have
Give yourself the best possible wedding gift, go to couples counselling before getting married. It’s an opportunity to really get to know your partner and plan your future together so you can have a long and happy marriage.