How to stay connected with your partner
Nowadays, we all live extremely busy lifestyles, sometimes it can be quite hard to find time to really connect with your partner. This blog is all about how to stay connected with your partner.
Humans are built for interaction, we are built so socialise and make friends. As well as this, we are built to desire physical contact, specifically from our partners. So what happens when you’re not feeling connected with your partner?
Well, it’s likely that you’ve started asking yourself lots of questions and it’s quite easy to start wondering whether it’s your fault or asking yourself what you could start doing differently. These connectivity issues in a relationship should be talked about, it takes two people to connect in a relationship and therefore the blame should not be placed on either partner.
Connections in a relationship can come in many different forms, but it’s all about understanding your partner and offering support where it’s needed. Sometimes your partner may not recognise that you need extra support and that’s why you should try and be open and honest around your feelings. Communication is key. Communication is a key technique that is taught during couples therapy sessions.
A lot of couples can often find communicating quite difficult, attending couple’s therapy can help both partners to learn those all important communication skills that are necessary for staying connected in your relationship. Not only does couple’s therapy teach you and your partner to communicate better, it also teaches the art of actively listening to your partner, which is equally important.
Using the senses
Building a connection with anything requires you to utilise your senses, you must consider what’s around you, what you can hear, touch, see and taste. When hugging a partner you may notice their smell and what’s going on in the world around you.
According to research, a person needs just one twenty second hug for the brain to start releasing Oxytocin, the love hormone.
It is suggested that we need at least 4 hugs in a day, so why not try to incorporate that into your relationship? Look for specific times in the day when a hug seems to make sense, such as before you leave for work, when you get home from work, building a routine of connectivity can be really good for both you and your partner.
Physical closeness can help you to feel more connected to your partner, but as well as this, talking and listening are very important. Utilising couples therapy can help to build a stronger foundation where both partners feel comfortable discussing their feelings. Couples therapy can be used by anyone at any stage in their relationship, a highly skilled counsellor will assess your relationship and offer a personalised plan for your future sessions.
If you require any more information on connecting with your partner or you need some advice, please don’t hesitate to contact our friendly team of highly skilled professionals.